Lend an Ear to Listening



There are a lot of facts to learn about the human ears. And yes, they do get bigger as we age, with the circumference of the ear growing by about half a millimetre each year. Some credit this growth with the need to keep our hearing ability as high as possible as we age (a survival mechanism). There are lots of fascinating facts about ears. 

“Ear circumference in mm = 88.1 + (0.51 x subject’s age). Conversely, a person’s age can therefore be calculated by the size of a person’s ear, using the equation: Subject’s age = 1.96 x (Ear circumference in mm – 88.1)” 
Taken from Ears, Facts, Function and Disease by Alina Bradford 


Our outer ear flaps are physiologically designed to act as a funnel for hearing. Human ears are remarkably similar in design to ape cousins (Bonobo Chimpanzee, Orangutan and Gorilla) but not to forbear primates like lemurs.

None of our cousin apes have pendulous unattached earlobes like humans (something that I actually don’t think has been studied). However, our earshapes (and inner ear workings) have evolved along similar lines to other apes. The evolving ear capability emerged as we developed vocalisation. Other primates do not have our range of ability to ‘talk,’ with some limitations on vocal cords, sinus cavities and larynx development. The human jaw shape, tongue and skull shape allows us humans to  have a greater range of vocal sounds. Primates do make noises that we humans also equally recognise, such as a screeching alarm call or hoot of disaproval. A scream, or the sound of nails scraping against a chalkboard will still elicit in us, a flight response, releasing adrenaline and increase heart rate. 

The rounded, funnel shape of our ear follows the golden ratio in Fibonacci principles. It is an exquisite mathematical design that amplifies a sound so we can hear sound gathered up from greater distances. We have, like other great apes, no ability to move our ears independently. We do not need that ‘radar’ ability to hunt (dogs, wolves, big cats) nor do we need it to listen to run away from predators (rabbits, antelopes, etc., – animals that do not have neck flexibility). We have evolved a more flexible neck, that allows us to search, up, down and left to right (scanning around us to search for food in tree cover). It implies that we are not designed to be prey or hunters but rather search the forest up and down for food. It is more likely that our ears (along with vocalisation) evolved to be useful in group social living, and used in collaborative efforts to relay information about ripening fruits, nuts, and seeds when the group is scattered, searching an area for food. Our ears would hear a predator approching under hidden cover. We could vocalise this exact information to our social group and make our escape together, much as a troupe of chimpanzees will do. 

“Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply.” 
Stephen R. Covey, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Personal Change

Our ears (and reactions) are sensitive to the sound of popping of seed pods, the fall of raindrops, the crackling of forest fire, the sudden warning calls of animals. Unfortunately, we bombard our ears with constant mechanical noise, loud music and other non-essential noises of industrialisation, making us increasingly deaf to such subtle cues in life. 


Earlobes that hang free (pendulous) are due to a dominant gene type. 

Attached earlobes (no drop down from attachment point) are the result of a recessive gene type. There are various myths about these and whether attached types are linked to undesirable qualities such as meanness or criminal behaviour. I don’t know about that, but generally we observe unemotional, less empathetic people as  linked to the ‘attached earlobe types,’ and emotional, kind, empathetic people are more likely to have large pendulous ‘detached earlobes,’ (Buddha type earlobe). In truth, a lot of us have mixed types and can’t be easily defined one way or the other. 


Ears also form part of our symmetry. A small, flat ear (against the head) that has symmetry on both sides, is said to be the most attractive, usually combined with a small nose and a symmetrical face. But this is only indicative of beauty. Some asymmetrical features (including ears) can be found more in people who become leaders. 

“.. our research shows that people with subtle asymmetries—for example, imbalances in ear or finger length—are often better “transformational” leaders, able to inspire followers to put self-interest aside for the good of the group. Furthermore, teams they lead outperform teams whose leaders have more-symmetrical bodies.”

But what dictates the patterned shape of our ears? Some sources say that they are as uniquely patterned as your fingerprint. 

The pattern is so individual, that recent studies say that biometric ear recognition is more accurate than facial recognition on cctv cameras. 


So, maybe, when posting photos of one’s self on social media, it would be wise to leave out anything depicting your ears… It is so easy for unscrupulous Web bots to find them and add them to a databank used by Governments, police, and other identification sources for nefarious purposes. 

Your ears can medically reveal things about the state of your health too. Kidney and liver problems, mineral deficiencies and heart disease can show up in the ears. If you have a crease across the Earlobe, it is indicative of the collapse of tiny capillaries in that area, mostly associated with heart disease and plaque build up in the arteries. The colour of your ear explains a lot of what is happening with blood flow. Even brain disorders can show up. 

Auricular Reflexology is used to treat corresponding areas of pain in the body  just like the foot, and hand, the ear is like a mini version of the rest of your body from a physiological energy aspect. 


Is it true that ear shape can also dictate personality? 

Hmmm, maybe. Sources of studies are really sketchy on this, but here are some thoughts on shape and meaning. 




For a little more information on personality and ear type… 




We take our ears for granted, but don’t use them as well as we might. We need to give them a chance to convey information to us about our environment. We do need to be careful about how much useless or excessively loud noise we subject them too. To be deaf, is to lose connection with our world and our ability to decode subtleties of nature itself. 



This is a guest post by gserpent.

I myself find this something for me to think about. I am the proverbial worrier… And as this post points out most eloquently, the things we worry about may never happen, or if we are so determined to worry, it can become a self-fulfilling prophesy (even if it is unconsciously provoked).

I encourage you to go to gserpent’s page to read…and follow the various reference links. However, many thanks to gserpent, for permission to reprint the text and video here for convenience. 

 We all worry.  Why do we worry all the time?  Getting this under control is one of the greatest things Magic does.  We as a human race are constantly looking for problems and danger. We look for something to happen.  No matter how good things get, we constantly play out worst case scenarios in our mind. Most people think this is a good thing.  They are simply wrong. It fills us with anxiety and we get addicted to the anxiety. You will never eliminate worrying, but you can understand that worrying is worthless.  

When you worry you don’t get good results in your life and it makes you not feel good.  It makes you feel frantic and anxious. It causes you to self sabotage. You focus on something and you actually attract it to you.  What you think about you bring about. I just got back from a vacation. We flew out to Phoenix and my mind wanted to get me to think about the bad things that could happen.  What if the flight has a mechanical delay? What if our rental car breaks down? What if our reservations were messed up at the resort? What if, what if, what if. If I focused on these worries, I would not have had a good time.  What most do is they focus on the bad that pops into their mind and it makes their motivation go way down.


The ancients called this the troll or gremlin in the mind. It is the troll or gremlin in your mind that is doing this.  People will worry so much and cause the thing to happen that they worry about and then they will say their worrying was justified.  When if fact they brought it upon themselves. The thing with worrying is that is spikes the emotion of anxiety and fear. When you set things in your mind with emotion it makes them stronger.  Your mind thinks that’s what you want so it brings it to you. Then your mind gets into a vicious loop.


First you need to understand that worrying is not your fault.  If you have read Lemurian Magic, you understand that chaos has been with the human race from the beginning.  Our race has had catastrophic things happen from the very beginning. It is why the human race is how it is.  When things get good we worry about bad things happening. When bad things don’t happen we make bad things happen because we are addicted to the feeling.   Our mind wants to bring bad things to the fore front. We live in a world of duality. Bad things will happen, but we as a human race keep thinking about bad things and actually bring on bad things because we are addicted to it.  It is just like a new born who’s mother was addicted to a drug while she was pregnant. That new born will be addicted to that drug and will probably seek that drug out their whole life. This is the human race! We were born addicted to the drug of chaos.  Our mind seeks it out! We are addicted to fear and anxiety and we want that drug.


Worrying is useless.  You will never eliminate them, but you can reduce the worrying or make them not as bad.  Worrying drains your energy. It drains you psychic energy and mental resources. When you focus on the worrying you start to worry more.  Your vibration starts to change and your mind brings in more negative worrying(see Are Your Thoughts Your Own?). When you start to worry, catch yourself and ask your mind, why are you doing this?  What is the purpose of this negative worrying? Let the ego side of you mind know that you are in charge now and you will focus on all the cool, fun, good things that will happen instead of the bad.  That is exactly what I do anytime I get caught into a worry spiral. This process can be rather amusing if you listen to yourself argue with your own ego. It is what Gollum in Lord of the Rings was based on.


The ego is the infantile side of the mind.  If you yell at yourself and talk down to yourself in your own head, it will just feed the tantrums and worrying that your ego will do in the future.  You need to be gentle with your own ego. Just like a child will not respond well to negative motivation, neither will your ego. Negative motivation will work, but it’s not high quality and will not last for long.  Besides why would you want to motivate yourself with pain when you can motivate yourself with ambitions, pleasure and desire. Become aware of yourself by monitoring your own thoughts. Be honest with yourself. If you are a constant worrier and all you do is think negative thoughts all the time,  make a catastrophe about situations, worry about stuff that is out of your control or if you worry about things and stuff does not work out for you then you need to admit to yourself that the infant ego is in control. This is valuable insight to have about yourself. With this you can bring awareness to your worrying.


Your thoughts create your feelings and emotions.  If you are anxious and low energy all the time then its your thoughts that’s doing it to you.  It creates frustration and negative feelings. Try to focus on the positive outcomes when you catch yourself worrying.  When I catch myself worrying about the negativity I will get with what I say on my blog, I switch that to focusing on all the people I will help by releasing info that is very hard to find.  I focus on the chains that I break others from. How breaking the chains made my life better and how it will help others who want to break the chains too. Even if you have done the rejecting thoughts and accepting thoughts exercise I show in Magic, this exercise on focusing on the positive outcomes will help you too.


This is the beginning of inner work and understanding yourself.  Im not telling you that all your fear is bad. There is such a thing as realistic fear.  You would not be alive without realistic fear, but worrying brings on unrealistic fear. So other people will tell you that you have to get rid of all your fear.  Realistic fear is necessary. It keeps you from doing stupid things that will get you hurt or killed. Unrealistic fear is when you experience fear or anxiety when there is no real threat.  It’s all in your head. It is all the ego doing it. I can not stress this enough, it’s not your fault. Our minds are addicted to anxiety because of our history. Here are three more things that will help you get the worrying under control.


Put yourself in new situations.  Experience the world. Learn things for yourself.  Part of the reason a lot of people worry is they live a sheltered life.  Remember back the first time you started something new like your job. You worried about every last little thing until you got used to doing it and it became routine.  All the unrealistic fears you had caused anxiety. When you get out and do new things your mind will worry, but do the exercise I just showed you. Then when you go do the new things you like again, there will be less anxiety and you will have learned new things.

Break the feedback loop of your mind.  Whatever your internal state is, your emotional state or your regular state, it will be how you perceive the world.  We all live in this world but perceive it different. It is our relativity. We will all tune in to things that keep that inner state alive.  When you start to get into a worry spiral, you will look for things to reinforce your worrying. Then you worry more and look for more reinforcement.  Break that loop. Make yourself focus on the positive outcomes. This is why I say cut out the news. All of the news is to keep you in a negative feedback loop.  Change your influences.

Re-own what you have disowned about yourself.  Think of a time in your life where you were made fun of or shamed for something you did that was outside the norm of the masses.  Maybe you had an outfit you loved and wore it to school and got made fun of, so you never wore it again and started wearing what everyone else was wearing.  Maybe you spoke up about something and were shamed by a teacher for not going with what’s in the text book. It may not sound like much, but to a kid it is traumatic and overwhelming.  As a kid, your world is all you knew. To not fit in literally feels like you will die to a kid. When you were shamed or ridiculed your survival instinct kicked in and disowned certain parts of yourself, so you could fit in.  You have lived your life that way ever since. When certain things come up in your life today that trigger you, it makes you feel like you did when you were a kid. Realistically being different is not dangerous, but our mind makes it out to be dangerous.  Re-own who you are and validate who you really are. Look for things that trigger you, the things make your mind start to worry and give you anxiety. Those are bithings you have disowned about yourself. People try to stay out of situations that trigger them, but if you let yourself be triggered it brings it out so you can bring awareness to it.

Apply all of this to your life and it will help slow the worrying down.  These are what helped me. No one knows you better than yourself. Magicians, Witches and Wizards use the subconscious side of the mind to help them think.  It is the part of the mind that has been around since the beginning. Using it will not eliminate worrying, but it will help bring the worrying ego under control.

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Personality Exposed part five


Looking at Celebrity couples and Political Leaders

I have barely scratched the surface with Graphology (forgive the pun). It is a deep and complicated journey through a piece of writing full of nuanced thoughts, styles and interpretations. Most true Graphologists train for years to gain a proficiency that is consistent . I am just looking at this in a self interested fashion and wanted to share a little bit that I have learned.


A look at samples of  writing again

These are my interpretations only and do not reflect the work of people more qualified than I, but I have used some guidance from various Graphology Web sites (all listed below). 

Donald and Melania Trump


We have already noted Donald and Melania Trump writing styles as being similar. Both are somewhat forceful, aggressive people, and not very empathetic. They show ‘loner’ tendencies. I think they are quite compatible. They leave each other to their own space and are happy to do that because they both prefer it. 


Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie


This couple is Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie. They already had (before marriage) a common interest in helping disadvantaged kids, but they themselves, are from very different backgrounds. 

Nicknamed ‘Brangolina’ during their marriage because they seemed to be the perfect couple. Their signatures say otherwise. 

It is difficult to find normal handwriting for each. Apparently, both Pitt and Jolie  have a tendency to write publically in printed capital letters (a sign of privacy, and wanting to be clear and not misinterpreted, repressing their own feelings). Now divorced,  Pitt shrank from the public spotlight for a while, upon the breakup, with media reporting on his low mental state, and his retreat to be with consoling friends. Jolie did not. She held her head high and carried on with life as normally as possible. 


Brad Pit has a simple upright, initials only, signature, which he might have developed during their Marriage. He shows a sense of pride in who he is and he promotes himself with an upward curve in the underline. Both letters carry a sense of self confidence, a tendency to think carefully, and creativity, but the letters are squished together (insular).

Pitt is materialistic, but there is also a sense of trying to shut out his materialistic nature with the curved underline crossing out the long down stroke on the ‘p.’ 

IMG_20190714_145051 Pitt has signed to the left of Jolie (who wrote the note and signed before he did), an attempt to make himself look more important than his wife.


I found a signature that had Brad Pitt’s whole name. The signature is more revealing because of the sudden drop off of the last letters (a sign of depression or unhappiness). The underline, forms a low cross representing the ‘tt’ on the dropped off last name. It suggests that Brad has low self esteem and is disappointed with himself for not living up to his family name. 


Angelina Jolie is a stronger personality than Pitt, showing aggressive jagged strokes in her public signature. The ‘A’ is wide spaced (inflated ego) and the rest of the letters appear as a series of triangles also quite widely spaced (stubbornness), she thinks logically and carefully about everything and is pragmatic about all things. She is open only with people she knows, but is a person who can show extraordinary friendliness to people who make it into her circle. Her handwriting shows a soft garland quality on the baseline, but there is not a great deal of empathy (closed ‘e’).  She is confident and reserved with an opinionated ego, has respect for herself and pride in her profession. She also has loner tendencies and is fiercely independent in her work. Her stroke linked words suggest eagerness or impatience. Her nest handwriting and carefully placed ‘i’ dots suggests a precision and perfection-oriented attitude. 

It is no wonder that the ‘Brangolina’ team fell apart. Angelina Jolie simply charged ahead and left Brad Pitt in her dust! 

They were never compatible in style, but Brad was unable to keep up for a complimentary relationship either. The match was doomed from the start. 


Boris Johnson and Jeremy Hunt

These two samples belong to Boris Johnson and Jeremy Hunt, both contenders for British Prime Minister to replace Theresa May. Both have an agenda to take Britain through Brexit. 


Johnson’s writing slants upwards, showing an upbeat positive attitude. His writing a mix of cursive and print is clear and precise, signifying intention, but the dots on the ‘i’ s show an impatience and the right slant on the words show a slight impulsiveness. He has a normal ‘t’ so is not driven to high personal achievement, but is confident and pragmatic. He doesn’t have a personal inflated ego, but does put emphasis on family and social groups (political party) with a lower emphasis on his position within them (modesty). Johnson doesn’t always close his a’s and o’s properly (can’t always keep secrets). He has some e’s that show some empathy for others. But a lot of them are closed suggesting, not always. The signature is confident and puts equal weight on both his Christian and surname. Boris knows who he is and has no need to inflate himself.



Hunt has very small blotchy writing with letters that don’t always close suggesting that he will use whatever confidential information he is given to further his agenda. His writing is not easy to read so perhaps has a private quality, but it does have some precision to it (self control). The words show a tendency to slant differently (left and right) showing an inability to control his emotions at times. The i’s are dotted perfectly, showing precise calculation. The t’s are crossed with confidence with a positive upswing to the cross stroke, and the m’s show balance (no inflated ego) with balance in self, family life and job. Hunt believes in himself. The writing has a tendency to slightly curve downwards and then back upwards again, suggesting an effort to stay positive when feeling negative about a situation (determined to show he is in control). The small letters show a tendency to hold in emotions and not reveal any insecurity. There is a sense of frustration in the y’s. The writing suggests inner struggle but determination to succeed. Hunt’s e’s (sign of empathy) are mostly closed, but that might be due to the smallness of his writing. Hunt’s signature is confident, clear and emphasised (underlined) on his first name (I am Jeremy), but almost dismissive of the surname. Jeremy is an individual out to prove himself. 





Not everyone will be convinced about the accuracy of Graphology, but there have been a number of historical studies done by European psychotherapists to confirm what has been noted in aesthetic philosophies for centuries. Our brain will make subtle changes to the pattern of our words commensurate with our state of emotion, health and perceived social status. Our style will change as we age, and with failures and successes in life . There is a further theory that if we change our conscious effort towards more positive writing styles, we change our perception of the world too. Many therapists working with children in schools will apply some of these principles to help children deal with disabilities to express themselves in more positive ways.

Certainly, employers who use Graphology methods, can determine if a candidate will be a suitable fit in the social hierarchy of a company. Graphology cannot determine if a candidate will be the perfect candidate, or if they will be able to carry out all aspects of the job. It cannot accurately determine how the applicant will apply their traits, if at all. A person with a felon’s claw trait does not necessarily mean that he or she will commit a crime, or act violently. It does indicate that the mindset is there.



I will finish up here… but if you want to know more, do look at the links below. 

The next post will be a reprinted (with permission) guest post on ‘Worrying’ from gserpent. It fits well with these posts on handwriting. One of the reasons that our handwriting holds so many traits, is because we have various unconscious insecurities about how others may perceive us. We worry what other people think about us or worry about whether we can trust others. If we can stop the ‘worry’ and change our writing to reflect positive behaviours, imagine how it can change our outlook on life. We can be the best we can possibly be, and maybe find the answer to how we move forward in a more positive relationship with the world and to each other. 


Bill Clinton Analysis



Charles Dickens Analysis (interesting because it shows the lower case ‘d’ style found in great writers. 



If you want to know more about Graphology, its history or study tips, these Websites are good starting points. 










Personality Exposed part four

My Character on Trial

~ Part 3


Negative Stuff

It is an interesting thing looking at negative character traits. We are happy to look at them in people that we dislike for one reason or another. We say things like, “yeah, I knew there was something wrong with him/her,” and “it doesn’t surprise me a bit.” How quick we are to judge.

To find negative traits in one’s own self is more than a little uncomfortable, and we do our best to disqualify them as untrue. We are all vulnerable, and especially so, when someone finds, and exploits us for our failings. But if we are to change our thinking, we do have to face up to our negative influences. 

Jeremy Corbyn writing


Jeremy Corbyn, leader of the opposition in the UK Parliament, was extremely defensive, when his writing style on a white board at an event, was made public. He tried to hide the fact that his varying slant on his writing is a negative trait. Typically, this is a sign of a lack of emotional control that can point to a dual personality. It falls into the category of borderline personality disorder (BPD). It is likely this is the reason that Corbyn excused himself with not learning to write properly at school. The sample itself, is too small, and does not provide a fair enough sample to analyse, or to point to a problem, but just the idea of it being there at all, is enough to put doubt into anyone’s mind and that is why Jeremy might have been unnerved by it. 

For me, my character analysis from my handwriting  has shocked me. But not really, because in my objectiveness, I see it as all quite truthful stuff. Hard to admit. And quite hard for me to disclose. 


My handwriting

So, let’s tackle a bit more… 

I learned that my tendency to capitalise words in sentences that do not fall into the capitalization rules (and I do it quite often), is me making my words important, when they are not. It is a behaviour that says, “I want you to take notice of what I am saying!” How sad, that I cannot rely on the subject matter being enough to do that. 


More Letters ~ g and y


I cannot cover the whole alphabet as it will take far too long. The ‘t’ and the ‘i’ were important, and covered a bit in an earlier post. So let’s carry on to ‘y’ and ‘g’ because they carry loops in lower case prose. They are associated with creativity, imagination, and sex drive. Basically that means what you imagine the world to be (not always true), how you apply your creativity towards it, and your sexual response to others. 


My loops come in two sorts (they are visible in the same piece of text). One indicates sexual frustration, and tenacity and the other, a large descending loop bigger than the middle section, indicates promiscuity. That large loop also says, high imagination, creativity and a tendency to fight causes. I think that the mix of styles indicates that I have searched for ‘satisfaction’ in different areas but have generally been dissatisfied with the results (perhaps because I have failed). 


There is an ominous trait in the descender from ‘g’ known as the ‘Felon’ s Claw’ because it is prevalent in a lot of penitentiary inmates. Do watch the YouTube video below as it shows this in detail… it is not something to have in your writing! It indicates a tendency to violence. I am glad that I don’t have that (phew!). 


More letters ~ o, a


These are letters that will show up lying, dishonesty, and hidden truths. 


Fortunately, most of my ‘o’ s and ‘a’ s indicate a fairly open nature. There are not a lot of crossing loops inside them, but they occasionally appear in my ‘a.’ I don’t really have a tendency to lie, but I have hidden truths or used white lies – so it does show up in my writing. The ‘o’ is mostly closed at the top. If it were open, looking more like an omega sign, or a ‘u,’ it would mean that I can’t keep a secret. If you see lots of unclosed ‘o’ s in someone’s writing, do not tell them your secrets, they will reveal them to someone else! Gossips. 


More letters ~ d

My ‘d’ is very often looped on the down stroke, but not excessively (which would mean I am paranoid) but they loop enough to say that I am sensitive to criticism by others. Yep, that’s me! 


More letters ~ ‘e’ 

I was disappointed that my writing does not show warmth to other people, because I am quite a caring person (or so I thought). I was happy to find that my simple, open ‘e’ is a sign of empathy. And even my open (but promiscuous) loops on other letters, also show an openness to others. I just have to stop myself hopping into bed with them, because ultimately, I will be disappointed. 😉 All joking aside, I have had a lot of unsuccessful relationships because I am probably not even sure of what I want from them. 


The Formal Signature

Our signature is the handwriting that we put out to the world on formal documents. It can look like our handwriting, but in a lot of instances, it takes on a much different look for what we want to project publically (sort of like an avatar). 


Example of a signature with flamboyant (look at me) emphasis


A signature with big capital letters is normal. A signature with smallish capitals shows modesty. A readable signature show honesty, clarity and confidence. An unreadable signature shows privacy, and a tendency to hide. A person who is powerful, or likes to appear confident and in charge, will put an underline under the signature (not touching it), and someone who is just a bit conceited will put a full stop (period) dot at the end of their name just to make the point. 


Surnames on signatures are telling. If the last name has a bigger capital on it than the Christian name, then family is very important. If the Christian name has the bigger capital, then you are showing individuality, putting the emphasis on you. 


What my writing says about me

I have an interesting trait on my signature. My first name has the biggest capital and my Christian name is quite legible. It looks just like the rest of my writing sample. My last name (it has always remained my maiden name, despite marriage), is almost unreadable, and the last letter crosses back in a looped scribble over most of the  surname. This is indicative of an unconscious desire to wipe out connection to my father and his name. I had an unhappy childhood full of conflict, and I saw my parents again only once after I left home at the age of eighteen. It shows spectacularly in my signature. If I had taken my husband’s name, I wouldn’t do this (I already practised to find out). That tendency to wipe out my last name along with a slight backslant on some words, suggests childhood issues. I spent the first year and a bit of my life in an orphanage. My father would visit once every weekend, but my mother had outright rejected me (going into deep depression) and had she had been interred in an institution where she underwent shock therapy treatment (a practise outlawed today). I was not aware of my life in an orphanage until age forty when my sister revealed it… I had a memory from about six months of age, sitting in a pram and she told me in rather shocked tones, where I was. The rejection and isolation from my parents shows up in my writing. 

My writing tells me lots. Mostly, it says that I am comfortable in my skin, kind and open with an empathy for others, but it also says I am reserved with strangers, and untruthful if I think the truth will hurt me or someone that I care about. And I have learned that I have not found full satisfaction in my relationships. 


Graphology can tell us stuff that we haven’t resolved in our lives. It can tell us that we are not perfect, but most importantly, it can help us to see where we need to change our thinking, to find balance and harmony in our lives. I have learned a lot about me, and dug up some old skeletons that I thought I’d laid to rest. I have work to do. 


I had intended to finish this subject here, but it would make it too long as there is a little more that I want to share, so I will continue next time… Going back to the celebrity writing samples that I posted on my preceding blogs. Meanwhile, I encourage you to watch the two short YouTube videos below. 


What traits do you look for in people that you should definitely not trust? 


Speed lesson in Handwriting traits. 


Personality Exposed part three

My Charactar on Trial

~ Part 2


Writing Depth, Spacing, Slant


Weight or depth of writing indicates me to have medium to light in pressure, and that my memory is short remembering events. I have a tendency to forgive and forget.

davMy Writing


A heavy weight (creates indentations on page underneath), indicates emotion and stamina. This person takes everything seriously and is unlikely to forgive. They remember injustices, and give no second chances. 


Blotchy writing is a casanova type or flitting type of person, like a bee to flowers. 


Thick writing (choosing a thick nib or felt pen) is someone trying to make themselves look imposing and unforgettable. (Donald Trump does this). 


Rare early example of Donald Trump writing before he switched to printed capital letters.


My writing is medium sized, so I am fairly comfortable in my skin. It used to be tiny as a youngster, a distinct sign of lack of my confidence, shyness and inability to feel comfortable in social situations.

Large writing means the writer is extremely sociable, or extroverted, or wants to appear imposing. 

I do space my words apart a little more than usual. It means, that although I can be sociable, I like my personal space. I am not inclined to let people into my personal space until I trust them. I also occasionally lift my pen to write a stand alone letter (not all of them are joined up). This is a sign of intuitive pauses, thinking about what I am writing.


Prince Charles has an interesting trait. He also spreads his words, but often has a long stroke between words, either linking one word backwards to the last (I think this is a sign of reinforcement) or it moves to the next  word (forward thinking). It makes him look slightly unsure of what to write, and he scans back and forth to be sure. 

IMG_20190711_205052Prince Charles


My writing is fairly upright. which means that I think before making decisions. (The Queen has upright writing but hers is more assertive) .


My Writing


A slight backslant can indicate a negative, depressed person

Too much backslant is considered to be a warning of an unsociable, self-absorbed person.

A slant to the right, on the other hand, is indicative of a warm, outgoing person who will jump right in and commit themselves. Caring people have this trait. Kate Middleton is a right slanted writer. So is Meagan Markle, but her writing is much more embellished making her rather determined to point it out, and to jump before thinking. Meagan also has developed a tendency for a backward flourish on her words. This is in the upper area of her writing, and equates to her conscious attempt to point to past achievements. 




Interestingly, Princess Diana was an upright writer and used simple letters to express herself (clarity of message). The control on her letters (closing them off properly) relate to a trustworthy nature(she could keep a secret).

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My writing is level with the top of the page, meaning I am fairly balanced in my moods. If it does slant, it tends to go up.

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An upward leading style toward the top-right of page, is the sign of a happy, fun, positive person.


Robin Williams handwriting showed a positive, upbeat style. His ultimate suicide was more to do with a diagnosis of Parkinson’s disease, coupled with Lewy Body Syndrome, a form of dementia that causes delusions. 

A downward slope towards bottom-right is the trait of an unhappy, negative person.


Adolph Hitler handwriting shows a downward trend. 


A mix of styles, slanting one way and then the other, is the sign of a person who has no control over their emotions. Jeremy Corbyn has writing in this category, but blames it on poor education! Benjamin Netanyahu also has a mixed style.

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What do you think these two styles say about these people. Do they have leadership qualities? Answers on who these writing samples belong to on my next post. 



Personality Exposed part two


I am leaving my self analysis out of the mix today, except to share one more thing about my ‘i’ trait. Yesterday, I revealed that I was a procrastinator, with a tendency to pessimism and disorganisation, based on my little i. There is one more thing to share on that, and it is the fact that my i is so simple, without loops or any adornment. It shows that I cannot identify with my parents. Yes, they are both dead, but that is not it. I did not have a happy childhood, and by age eighteen, I had shunned them both completely. It is starkly evident in my writing. Who knew? 

I am saying all this (and I will continue with revelations about me later), to encourage you to look at your own handwriting. Why? Because, we are deeply self-deceptive with ourselves, and if that is so, we cannot function optimally in the world.

Before we can offer something to others, we must know what it is that we are offering? We must be sure that we are not taking instead, without any return of the gift. Knowing yourself (really being objective about it), gives an opportunity to repair and heal that which we think may not affect us, but that is actually dominating our spirit. And we need to know it, and change if we are to move forward into a kinder world.

These short videos on Graphology will be well worth watching… About 6 to 11 minutes duration  each. They say so much… More than we want to admit. 





And one more for the writers out there… This one will interest you, because it is about creativity and the traits of great literary giants. 


Personality Exposed part one

My Character on Trial

~Part 1

My handwriting sample is self-analysed, so I am probably biased, but then I know myself fairly well (or should do after a lifetime). Still, it isn’t comfortable for me to do this. Not everything is positive, and it really does shed some light on my character faults.

My Sample Page


Margin placement analysis is quite complicated. I have simplified it here so as not to be too verbose.

Left Margin
I have used a normal left margin of 15% of the page, which means I have equilibrium of a simple life, conscious order and harmony.
The margin drifts slightly to the right as I descend the page, meaning I am trying to detach in an optimistic way from what I write, but it could also could indicate impulsiveness.

Right Margin
My right margin is small at about 8% of the page width, meaning I am sociable, and an extrovert, but can also mean that I have a tendency to defend myself from others or outside influences. The right margin is irregular with one blank block (A margin ghost) that should have been filled with words. The irregular margin indicates that I can have out of control emotions, be ambivalent or disordered. The block gap (Margin Ghost) says that I might have fear about making decisions for the future.

Top Margin
This is the relationship with the reader. In a non-header page, such as this, it is normal at 10-15% of the page. It suggests courtesy, good manners and self control.

Bottom Margin
This is indicative of how writers move on in life (turning the page). Mine is slightly small, showing a resistance to change.


Letter ‘t’
Most of my ‘t’s’ are consistent, with a midline cross on the ‘t,’ which is reflective of balanced self-esteem. The slanting (left to right) vertical down-stroke is indicative of self control, reflection, objective decisions and actions. When crossing double ‘tt’s,’ I use a single rising cross stroke, indicating quickness and ingenuity.
Notice the cross on the double ‘tt’ on ‘go-getter’ word. The cross bar is (unusually for me) placed almost at the top of the down strokes. It may have been a subconscious raising of my own expectations. High cross bars indicate high self-esteem, ego and achievement. Rebellion can also be a negative aspect, especially if the cross bar is above the down stroke. (Sometimes a company might want that, especially if they wanted a job applicant to expand their business. A low cross bar on the ‘t’ indicates low placed self-esteem or a person who has no goals (a warning to employers).

Letter ‘i’
I have a lot of inconsistencies in my ‘I,’ especially on the dot.
The downstroke is direct and simple, showing a quickness for comprehension but also that I feel some limitation for resources.
The light pressure on the dot, indicates a certain amount of mysticism, but dot placement is not very precise, sometimes missing (forgetfulness), sometimes left of its target, (procrastination or pessimism) , sometimes right (inattention to detail). Occasionally a slight concave jab appears (irritation). The solid dot represents loyalty.
More on my personality will be exposed next post… but if you want to learn more about your own writing, this website is really helpful.


Handwriting and Your Brain 🤓 🧠

Did you know, that handwriting is better for your brain than typing? The art of hand writing uses all parts of the brain, whilst typing does not. So if you find your mind getting a bit foggy (does come with aging), try writing a diary. Pick a favourite pen and make it an artwork.

Famous Signatures

You likely already guessed that these signatures belong to Donald and Melania Trump.


What do you think these signatures say about them?

The angular strokes are sharp, unforgiving. Donald has a very jagged ‘D’ that is large and full of self importance, but also closes off in a series of jagged angles, suggesting he is unapproachable and dismissive. The last name, he has given slightly more importance to the ‘T’ which is taller than all letters, suggesting surname means everything to him, but both names start with large capitals letter suggesting self importance.

There is pragmatism and intuitiveness in both signatures, but Melania doesn’t use her intuition. She, unlike Donald, is patient (waiting for rewards). Both are ego-centric and narcissistic, but Melania is the more grasping and mean spirited of the two (narrower writing all squished up with little curled hooks). She has big emphasis on the last name, so it is important to her. Both are very family oriented but in a self-interested closed fashion, excluding outsiders. There are tendencies for anger in both, but Melania keeps hers to herself. The high, short cross bar on her ‘T’ last name, with a long descender on it and also on the last ‘p,’ suggest her intense materialism associated with her marriage to Donald.

Interestingly, both of them have simple block type writing for composition of general text. Donald tends to use capitals for all written notes. This is a man who means what he says, wants to shout it, and is full of self importance. He doesn’t want anyone to misinterpret what he says.

Are you surprised?

Hard to Hide

Our personality can say so much about our goals in life.

From an early age, most of us are taught to write. It is a requirement for expression within our schools and for interaction in society.  We have all learned to join up our letters. 


“As long as we are studying penmanship in school or at home it is a merely mechanical operation; we simply follow the copy-book or the blackboard letters written by the instructor, but after we have mastered the art of penmanship, we become independent and write and form letters of the alphabet to suit our personal taste and ability. Our hand then becomes the unconscious instrument of our brain and merely transcribes into letters, words and sentences, the active thoughts as they are formed…. We find just as many different kinds of handwriting as there are people.”

 ~Hugo J. von HAGEN 

Graphology: How to Read Character from Handwriting, 1919


True Graphology, is a complicated business. It requires meticulous measurement using special rulers, statistical analysis, and a lot of time to analyse the handwriting of one individual. 

Our personal script says so much about us… it is like a window into our soul.

I have only attended a couple of informal lectures on Graphology, so don’t know much, but I have learned enough that I can see that there is some merit to it by  looking at my own handwriting. I include it here so that you can look at it too. It is a quickly produced piece so that my traits show up best. 

Of course, I use unruled, plain white paper. There must be no guiding constraints to a true handwriting sample. Everything matters. The space, the style, the pressure, and even the choice of pen.


I will share with you on the next post what my handwriting reveals about me, but perhaps you can guess? Am I introverted, or extroverted? Am I generous or mean? Am I secure, or insecure? Can you rely on me, or am I self-serving. Am I ruthless or gentle?

Am I a world saving hero, or a shrinking violet? Do I want to be in your life close and in your personal space, or am I distant and uninterested? Do I care about you, or do I care about me? Am I fun, or a misery guts?

All will be revealed soon. I can tell you that I am not perfect! 😂 

Graphologists have had a field day with most leaders and celebrities of the world. Their handwriting says so much about them… And some couples (in relationships) can have similar looking signatures. Shockingly so in some cases.

Have a look… Do you recognise this couple?


But some close relationships can also show opposite characteristics in the  handwriting, meaning that we can either complement each other ( a positive relationship) or find conflict ( a negative relationship). Who do you think these signatures belong to, and do you see complementing each other, or conflict? 


There are a lot of positive aspects as well as negative aspects to each characteristic writing style… It shows that we have a choice to be either positive or negative in our lives, and that is really important, because there’s a little wiggle room for change.

Graphology is not a science. It falls far enough outside of an absolute, not to be allowed in law courts (like the lie detector test). But occasionally, Graphologists might be called in to give police an idea of the type of person they might be dealing with in some unsolved cases. Writing traits can show the psyche of a potential criminal, and let police know what kind of person they might be investigating. 

Our writing is unique, but so is our Signature…


Our signature is what we put out to the world to say who we are publicly (rather than our private image which is only shared with close friends and family). It is generally more stylized to suit what we wish to project, rather than what we actually do with the rest of our  more emotive writing style. 

What do you think that your handwriting says about you?

Watch this 2 minute video. It might help you decide.

Under Whispering Trees


Ever since I can remember, trees and plants have meant so much to me. My first real memory in a garden was as a tiny 18-mth-old toddler, visiting my grandparents. It was Spring and the daffodils and tulips were in bloom. I remember moving along a concrete and stone path, as fast as my wobbly little legs could carry me, toward a brilliant red tulip. I remember… I wanted to smell it. It did have a subtle scent; slightly sweet, like rain. My grandfather, observing, was so intrigued by my single-mindedness, that he captured the moment on his old ‘Brownie’ black and white camera. I bent ever so delicately, without touching the bloom, to sniff-in, a long slow reverie. I was inconsolable when taken back indoors. I wanted to be in the garden. Lots of tears and I struggled terribly when picked up against my will. 


Growing up, I spent more time in my garden than indoors. I would examine caterpillars, ladybugs, worms (apparently I was fascinated with them as a toddler), and I would have my hands in the soil more often than not. Night time journeys in the back of the car, I would stare longingly at the trees that loomed up in the headlights like sentinels along the road. I would spend hours deciding if they were friendly or not. Most were. 

I grew,  At age 8, I tried to convert our wooden garden shed into my own house for me and my collection of pet insects. At age 10, a school mate (he is now my husband) gave me an acorn he had found. He later gave me some maggots (I think to scare me), but I loved the gift, so the joke fell flat. At age 11, I would leave that school, and not see him again for another 36 years. I kept the acorn for a while, and then planted it.


“The creation of a thousand forests

is in one acorn.”

― Ralph Waldo Emerson

A friend’s mother watched me once in my early  teenage years,  her daughter and I would go into their garden, and I would tell my friend how to talk to the flowers. We would walk solemnly around the garden, addressing all the plants with “hello, how are you today?” She told me years later that she had been very worried about me, thinking that I was an abnormal child. Maybe she was right. My mother had a nervous breakdown after my birth, and she always told people that I was evil. I was an intuitive child. My Grandfather recognised it. I think my Mother was scared by it. 

“It is not so much for its beauty that the forest makes a claim upon men’s hearts, as for that subtle something, that quality of air that emanates from old trees, that so wonderfully changes and renews a weary spirit.”

― Robert Louis Stevenson

Mine is not an unusual story and I have always been a tree-hugger kind of person. I love to touch and talk to trees silently in my mind… society is not kind to people who appear to be talking to ‘nobody,’ so I keep my secrets hidden. 

We are all born with an innate sense of what brings us life. Unfortunately, it is mostly educated out of us. I was different. My Mother was too sick, and my Father too busy to take much notice of me. Sisters were older, and had little time for a sibling so much younger. I was left in charge of my own thoughts. I did not find school enthralling, but perhaps that was good because  I never lost my sense of wonder at the magic in nature.


Trees are the most long lived life form that we have (if they are left to grow to full maturity). ‘The Fortingall Yew’ in Scotland is Britain’s oldest tree (nearly 2,000 years old). Yews are considered to be sacred trees. First worshipped by druids, Yews were considered to be able to rejuvenate and resurrect themselves (when a dying tree branch touches the ground, it will root and start a new tree). Christians adopted them for obvious reasons, and to also appease the Pagan communities. The oldest Yews in Britain are always in church graveyards where there is a reluctance to remove them.


The next most iconic tree, is the oak. There is a great oak tree in Sherwood Forest (fabled home of Robin Hood). It is thought to be between 800 and 1000 years old. The rest of the Forest was felled, replaced by a pine monoculture. The Great Oak is now held aloft with scaffolding and cordoned off from people. As a child, though, I stood inside the hollow of the tree which could hold at least 6 adults inside its hollow trunk. Access was through a narrow slit in the outer bark. I loved the feeling of being inside a tree. I wanted to be there by all by myself. I was really sad when my mother joined me inside. The Great Oak has since become frail and the tree is in now danger of collapse. With all of the other Oak trees removed, it has become starved and lonely. I have never been back to see it, even though I easily could, I do not want to see it in distress. 

Oaks are my favourite trees, but I love all trees. They hold the secrets to life and provide the earth’s natural air conditioning and protection from the sun. They provide nuts and fruits, and some have edible leaves and flowers. They provide shelter from winds, capture and release moisture in the water cycle, and give themselves up each autumn, replenishing the soil with nutrients for fungi, microorganisms, small invertebrates, beetles, wasps, bees, and other insects that make their homes in our soil. The trees themselves can be home to insects, lizards, squirrels, primates, snakes and birds, making a tree one of the most sharing lifeforms on the planet. A thousand lifeforms can live in a tree. 

And the trees can communicate as this short piece explains…

I hate to see them felled, but trees can  provide us with timber for homes, firewood and mulch for soil conditioning. We should use these resources sparingly though.

“A nation that destroys its soils destroys itself. Forests are the lungs of our land, purifying the air and giving fresh strength to our people.” 

― Franklin D. Roosevelt

Forests have disappeared in ever increasing numbers, for agriculture, cattle farms and paper and biomass production. We humans have lost the connection of what trees really mean to our lives. There are calls for forest regeneration, but the ideas seem to have monocultures in mind, to cage the trees by species, rather like we cage animals. This is not natural. It is just an excuse to use the trees, rather than care for their spirit. 

I want to see real forests regenerated where they have been clear cut for agriculture. I wonder if you feel the same? Can we bring life back to our planet.

Some people have already proved that cleared forest can be regenerated and still provide some income for local people.

We certainly need actions. I am hopeful. I keep talking to the Trees, I hope that we can save them. Do you think that we can? 


Under Whispering Trees ~ A magical reverie in the forest


Oh, and  before I forget, Joseph (the young man in Kerala, India, that I chatted with the other day on Twitter), sent me a picture of his forest home.


One potato, two potato, three potato, four…


When you woke up this morning, what was your first awareness? Was it a thought, a sound, bright light, what?

Mine was sound. I listened. Birds were singing; Blackbird, Crow, Finches and a Wood Pigeon. Not the dawn chorus, but enthusiastic nevertheless, at 7:00 am on a sunny morning. Next awareness, my husbands radio (always playing BBC radio 4) with the hourly news report. Then an airplane noise overhead. As I opened my eyes, light streamed in, forcing me to wakefulness. Blue sky and bright sunshine greeted me as I opened the curtains, listening to a report on the news to implement a plan to plant millions of trees worldwide to mitigate CO2 from the atmosphere…

Looking out the window onto tree-lined scrubby land filled with small brown butterflies and hover flies, it is hard to believe that there is a problem with our world.

If only all mornings could be this perfect for everyone?

One potato, two potato, three potato, four…

A game from my young childhood began playing in my head. As friends, we’d giggle in the playground, starting a game of hide and seek tag. “One potato, two potato, three potato four” … the appointed leader would use her rolled up fist to bump each of our own in turn… “five potato, six potato, seven potato, more… You’re it!” The eighth person that she chose, was ‘It.’

So ‘It’ would turn away and hide her eyes for a count of 10 seconds at a designated home base, while the rest of us ran away and hid. “Coming! Ready or not,” ‘ It’ would warn. She then used stealth, cunning and speed to find us, and tag us with another fist bump. If we got back to home base, we were safe from the tag. If not, we became the next ‘It.’ This endless game was social, competitive, fun and removed pent up tension from sitting too long in class. Even shy little weedlings like me enjoyed this game along with the extrovert types. We all got along, no one argued. When you were tagged, it was your turn to be the catcher. You were in charge, but only until you passed the tag onto the next person. It was fair, it was fun and we all adhered to the guidelines to participate.

A lot of those tags, turned into body slaps, with camaraderie and more giggles. We connected on a physical, emotional and mental level. If we were tired, it was OK to step away and watch from the sidelines, but we could join in again at any time. It was our game. We set the rules between us, and we all profited, increasing our awareness, speed, agility, and ability. There were no tools, no money, no betting, no corruption and no complaints.

Could the world work better this way, organising our leadership roles with a connected spirit? Certainly we need leaders but surely they should always be for the common good for all of us, and we should be able to choose who gets to be a leader at any time, while sticking to the same rules that we have all decided.

“One potato, two potato, three potato, four.”


Changes to my site



I have changed my blog template. I did not like some strange things happening on the view of my pages. So I have switched to a simpler format that my phone can cope with.

The comment space can be found at the bottom of each post… Just click on the comment icon and it will open for you. I am sorry that this may not be quite as intuitive. I will see how it goes. 😊

There is also a handy little feature that tells approximate reading time for the post.

I hope those of you on computers see it all OK. I cannot check as all I have is my phone. Let me know please if you see glitches. 😊 Many Thanks  ~ Colette ❤️


Keeping them Out Letting them In


I mentioned that I do not want to see comments of a political, religious or commercial nature on my blog.

That isn’t exactly what I mean, because they are not very well defined terms.

I mean, that I do not want to see anyone promoting a political or religious idea at the expense of all others nor do I want to see the promotion of a product that will fix my life (in what ever way intended, commercial sales belong in other places, not here). 

Of course my readers can express their reactions to things that affect them (all of the above included), but I actually think that the promotion of these three philosophies, are detrimental to the human spirit. They take away our independence and enslave us to a system that we cannot escape, no matter how hard we try.

So I would like this space to be on ideas and radical thinking on what we would really like to see for our future. It can be practical and physically possible (in theory) or just a wish to find more abilities in our mind space. It can be scientific or esoteric. But I would like to see current dogmas left on a back-burner (so as to speak). Philanthropy, Science, Emotion, and positive influences are all welcome. I am trying very hard, to provide a magical spark to envision our future as something other than the future that current legal laws, religious rules, and commercial enticements, pound us with every day.

This is not to deny what is happening, or the fact we are currently trapped in do or don’t scenarios, but rather not to furnish what is happening with constant negativity, hate, anger and so on.

We need a way forward, so if I take Politics, Religion and Commercial Gains ( runaway consumerism) out of the equation, perhaps we can free our mind to find an Atlantis like civilization full of knowledge and equality, or find a forgotten ability to read nature, communicate with other creatures, or maybe, just maybe we will just leave the crap behind for a little while.

Stargazing Futures is really about looking at creating a move into a better life for all of us.

I intend (and hopefully do not fail) to make more effort to leave my pessimism and mistrust aside and make an effort to reach out beyond that which I know, and into unknown territory trying to keep an open mind.

Today, I started with a private conversation with a Twitter follower… A man in Kerala, India. I do not know Joseph, more than his Twitter profile description that says he wants to save trees. But when I saw him put a radom ‘like’ on one of my responses to someone else (he always likes something completely random as it pops into his timeline and not necessarily intended for him), I decided to say hello directly via direct chat. We had a short, but connected conversation about family and what walking in the forest means to us. A two minute conversation connected two people, world’s apart with our mutual appreciation of trees, sharing just a little about ourselves. It left me just a little happier. I actually smiled! 😊

In past years, I might have found it suspect that someone from a third world country wants to connect. We have all seen the scams that can occur, (Send money now, my mother, sister, brother has high hospital bills to pay), but if we are to move forward, we need to eliminate Politics, Religion and Commerce (illegal or otherwise), shake away our conditioned misgivings, and connect as human beings. Our survival and that of the planet depends on it! We all need to be good people, doing good things and leave biases where they belong, in the proverbial garbage bin.